“你一个女孩子自己去外面能行吗？”“家长们一般不太愿意让女孩子离自己那么远。”“你真的和家长商量过吗你一个女生他们真的同意了？”“女孩子还是有一个稳定的工作比较好，做老师就不错。”“你问问你男朋友要不要和你一起出国，还能搭个伴。”
诸如此类，全是我在准备留学过程中从中介、老师、同学口中得到的话语，其中蕴含莫名其妙的信息成了莫名其妙的权威，始终阻挠着我向前走，原因竟然只是因为我是女生。
——Jin
"Will you be able to go outside by yourself as a girl?" "Parents are generally not very willing to let girls go that far away from themselves." "Have you really discussed with your parents that you're a girl and they really agree?" "It's better for girls to have a stable job, and it's good to be a teacher." "Ask your boyfriend if he wants to go abroad with you, but also to take a companion."
These were all the words I got from agents, teachers, and classmates during my preparation for studying abroad, and the inexplicable messages they contained became an inexplicable authority, always blocking me from moving forward, simply because I was a girl.
——Jin
